Mum confession, the other day hubby went out for the day and I was left with our toddler for the whole day, it was raining and storming and we were stuck inside all day.. this drove us both mad… By the afternoon hubby was home and I was meant to go out to dinner with some of my girlfriend’s but plans changed, which was completely fine but here comes my mum confession. After dinner and having my toddler literally throw his spaghetti at me I got dressed and told my husband I just needed time & got in my car and drove to Kmart. I had no use for Kmart I definitely didn’t need anything but I just needed to re group again before I regreted.
I know that my son was only horrible that day because his dad left for the day and we got stuck inside all day due to heavy rain & Strom. But I would be lying if I sat here writing this if I didn’t also add in I’ve been struggling with how to deal with my toddler?
I love my son so very much he’s my whole world but sometimes I feel like im failing as a parent because of his behaviour some times. How do parents survive the terrible twos?
I know this stage isn’t going to be forever and that my son is just learning in this stage of life and he can now say the word “no” and is still understanding what it all means. We are in the transition stage from baby to child, going from cot to big boy bed, dummy to no dummy, bottles to no bottles.
Sometimes in the heat of the moment i forget this and I get fustrated with his actions and then I try to disapline him when he himself isn’t really aware of his own actions yet. I’m trying to work around the terrible two stage and in return how to love this stage.
Again everyone knows I love my podcasts ” Don’t worry I’m not going into detail again.” But in this podcast they came up with steps to help mothers and what we should “try” Honestly at this point I’m trying anything!
- Giving your child independents “im not talking full-blown” but in the podcast a great point was made up, let your toddler pick his own clothes out, of course you pick two options you like then have your toddler decided. Or asking your child between two different snacks which one they want. Treating your toddler like a child not a baby anymore.
- Durning a tantrum it’s important to remain calm and avoid disapline in that very moment. Instead ignore the child and avoid eye contact in that moment until they calm down, once the tantrum is done then talk calmly to your child and reassure them they are loved and how to use their words.
- Tantrums in public are ok it doesn’t mean your a bad mum, pick them up and take them to a calm area of the shops and just hug them until they finish and again talk to them afterwards.
- Show as well as explain you can’t just explain without showing them.
These four helpful tips will hopefully help me towards an easier stage of the terrible twos and maybe even enjoy it. I’ve decided to practice what I write and in two weeks I’ll update you guys the outcome if it’s working or if it didn’t. If you too are dealing with the terrible two stage, please remember your not alone and it’s not inbracing and all parents have hit this stage once or twice in their life, this is something I’m still trying to tell myself.
We are all doing amazing and every parenting is different so never compare.
Not just a regular mum 💌