For my first pregnancy my two friends planned a whole baby shower for me and it was lovely… Of course for your first definitely think it’s a must, but now this is my second pregnancy, and I kinda just don’t want to have one…
I know I know i can already here people saying well why not I still don’t get it? I think my answer is going to be short and sweet. When I had Lorenzo it was a exciting time for my friends, but since being a mother for almost two years I can count on one hand how many times those friends at my first baby shower have actually spent the time with me and my family. And the sad retailty is I can also count on one hand who my real friends are and have been there since the beginning to now.
My second reason for no baby shower the second time around is because hubby and I have everything we need and what we wanted we have already went out and bought for our baby girl, and yes we would just ask for no gifts and get it short and simple but this is what brings me to my third reason for not having a baby shower.
Hubby ( he doesn’t like his name shared on social media) comes from a split family and they kind of have their own troubles to face right now… And unfortunately when it comes to both of our families mixing it just doesn’t work out and for us we like to keep them very separate which is sad for our children but again if you knew the whole story people would understand, but it’s not my story to tell and I think there’s a time and place and writing a blog about it all is not one of them. Also this brings back to my first point I actually don’t know who I would invite as my friendship circle is probably only about three real friends!?
A lot changes when you have children and I’ve sadly had to learn this the hard way. And that’s ok I’ve moved on and I’m adjusting, but inviting people to my baby shower is not just about me this time around it’s about who’s actually going to be their for my children even when all the excitement is done and dusted, and it’s sad because I look back on my first baby shower and feel sad that Lorenzo has all these books signed by people who I really thought would be their for him and my family still but the sad reality is there not anymore and that’s ok. You learn a lot from your first and you change a lot and for the second you do what you want to do I’m not here to please other people I’m here for my own happiness.
I would love to here from second time or third time around mummas and if your story is different or the same? For me I’m thinking of doing a babymoon with hubby and have a weekend away with him and just spend that time together before our lives change again for the second time. We love Melbourne and probably will go back or just a road trip some place?