I made a birth plan with my first born son Lorenzo but at the end of the day he came in his own time and I tried my best to stick to the things I wanted but until your in that situation anything can change or happen. So when I say I’m making a birth plan for baby girl please know that I’m not writing this saying this is what I want and this is what I’ll be doing no matter what as this is my second birth I know anything is possible.
With Lorenzo I was 100% sold on a pain free/ drug free birth, and the reality was he was two weeks over due and I had to get induced which was clearly not a drug free birth and yes I made it to 6cm and was begging for the drugs.
This time around:
Again I want to try a drug free birth
” for as long as possible.” But I’m also fully prepared to get to a point where I will again be asking for some type of pain relief. I’ve already been reading up on ways to manage a drug free birth and I want to try some of those things but again I’m not writing this sticking to my word because anything is possible.
Who I want in the birthing room:
First pregnancy I asked my mother who is a retired midwife and of course hubby to be in the room.
This time around I will being having the same, I haven’t asked my mum yet and if she says no then that’s also ok and it will just be me and hubby.
Who will be at the hospital:
With Lorenzo the eximent of having a baby got the best of me and I had everyone come and visit straight away which was so lovely but also very overwhelming for me when I look back on that time, I pretty much had my whole family there from the get go and close family friends and when they left and I was alone it felt weird and was hard to adjust, so hubby and I did speak about what would happen this time around and this is what we have decided.
We will be informing my parents when I go into labour and my older sister is already on Stan by to come house sit as we do have a dog named zues and of course our son, she will be tag teaming this with my little sister as well. Or they will most likely take zues to my parents family home. For the birth of our baby girl and the whole first day we have decided we just want it to be Hayden and I and too enjoy our time with our baby girl as she is the second baby and her whole life she’s going to have someone with her, we want to enjoy her and celebrate her birth and also rest. This is something I really never thought about doing with Lorenzo and I honestly wish I did.
Second day with baby girl will be family and Lorenzo our son meeting baby girl for the first time. We have spoken and we might also invite very close friends up that afternoon but it all depends on how the morning will go with Lorenzo meeting his new baby sister.
Which brings us to day 3. This will be when friends only close friends come and meet her and have a visit.
When we will announce her birth:
We have decided to keep her birth to ourselves and close ones well we are still in hospital. At this point we definitely know we won’t be posting to social media the first day and again Hubby and I really are putting our foot down with only wanting that first day to be us and in that moment as you never get that moment back. We have booked a newborn photoshoot with a friend who has her own business and she is coming up the second day to take family photos in our room of the moment Lorenzo meets his sister and of us four as a family, so we might possibly be waiting for a photo from her and then we will upload to social media.
What will hubby do this time around:
Hubby and I have also spoken as we do have a dog and a two year old hubby will be staying the nights with Lorenzo at home so he is not left out in anyway, and that they get to have that bond. Hubby will be there during the days for a few hours at a time but will most likely be myself and baby girl.
Our first two weeks at home:
Hubby and I spoke and have said our main focus at the end of the day is our family and Lorenzo. I work with kids and have seen the effects some children have when a new baby is added into the family but the parents have sent them to daycare for a full day well the child knows they are both home, honestly it’s heartbreaking to watch and I never want to make my son feel that way, we have decided the first week we will break up Lorenzo’s daycare days for example Lorenzo goes to his grandparents on Mondays which he of course won’t be because we will be both be at home, we decided to keep him home Monday & Tuesday and will send him to daycare on the Wednesday and see how he goes clearly not a full day. If he does well and is fine we will continue to take him but have decided only half days if he doesn’t do well we decided to keep him home that Thursday and send him that Friday. Durning the second week we said he will be going back on normal routine as hubby will be going back to work week 3 so we unfortunately can’t do it as well in week 2 and need to keep in consent.
Split our time with Lorenzo:
My biggest fear out of this whole thing is my son and making sure he still knows he’s loved and that he’s happy. So hubby and I spoke and we will definitely be tag teaming it where after I breast feed “if I get the chance.” I’ll take Lorenzo to the park just him and I and have our time, little things like that and also hubby will do the same with Lorenzo etc. We will figure out parenting two kids along the way.
So as you can see our birth plan isn’t just a blog about how the birth will go it’s more about planning, planning the who’s, how’s and the when’s. We know we might upset a few friends and family but this time around and our last time around we really just want it to be about our little family and what’s best for our happiness and if we have to be a little selfish for our family then we will be We know what one day some of our families and friends will understand.